Adventures & Moments

So, dear Uncle and Aunty ejoor (please), if you’re guilty of any of these, please, STOP IT! 🙏🏽

• What if they just had a miscarriage? 💔

• What if they’ve been trying for years with no luck? 🥺

• What if they’ve decided to wait until they’re financially stable before having kids?

• What if they don’t want kids right now?

Asking this question can be triggering, hurtful, and even depressing. The fact that someone smiles and posts pictures online doesn’t mean they’re not fighting battles privately.

So instead of asking, just SHUT UP, pray for them, or waka pass (move on) 🙄

• “Aunty, your biological clock is ticking!” ⏳

• “All your mates are married!” 😒

Wait first, is it your biological clock? 😆 Who told you that being married = being successful?

Not everyone will marry before 30. Some people haven’t found the right partner yet, some are focusing on their careers, and others have chosen a different path entirely.

The next time you see a single person, instead of asking, “When is your wedding?”, ask about their career, passions, or well-being. Because let’s be honest, all you want is their jollof rice on the wedding day! 😂😜

• “What are you doing at home?” - "I am playing Ludo and Chess at home ni"

• “You’re just wasting time!”

First of all, fingers are not equal. Just because you got a job immediately after school doesn’t mean everyone else will. People also relocate. As an example, imagine a young girl who just got married and decided to go and join her husband in whatever location her husband is. Upon relocating, she realized the system is a bit different and she would need some time before getting into their system. So just asking that insensitive question "When are you getting a job?", will definitely upset her. Industries change, and sometimes life happens. Instead of putting pressure on people, why not ask if they need help or encouragement?

• “Three girls? So when are you trying for a boy?”

• “A woman is not complete without a son.” 🙄

Excuse me, is it your Abigail? 😆 (A Nigerian slang for a woman with all girls). Did she tell you she wants a male child and even if she did, pray. Don't get into the loop of asking her, about her sexual life and how you had 15 boys😄at a stretch. Epele ooo, mama for the boys😆

Dear young wife, don’t let society pressure you! If you have all-girls, love them! As a matter of fact, I am from a family of "all-girls" and I really really love my sisters. If you and your partner decide to try for more kids, go for it as long as you can afford it. But don't because of society or bad-mouthed people push yourself into looking for a male child. No gender is superior—let people raise their families in peace.